Some movies can represent the idea of romance for a particular generation and the one that defined mine was You've Got Mail. That was when the Internet started to get prevalent and connecting with people seemed so much easier, but with an added veil of suspense. I was totally romanticised by its story and believed it could happened to anyone of us. And it did.
Since then, there weren't many (romantic) movies that have engaged me as much.
Romance is naturally a sweet bitter experience that brings us to places. Being able to connect with someone at a deeper level is beyond words and it surfaces differently for different people. He/she is the fuel that keeps the fire burning within. Maybe thats why romantic movies never fail to interest me.
I chanced upon and previewed The Fault in Our Stars OST on iTunes and it was love at first preview. I could totally visualised scenes from the movie by listening to the soundtrack. I proceed to watch the trailer on YouTube and it validated my visualisations.
The male character Gus's spunky and witty character is evident from the 3-minute trailer. He throws memorable lines about love and I love them. Yes! I even Googled the quotes and found sites dedicating to them. Kudos to John Green (the author).
This movie reminds me of my catch-up session with an old friend. I met up with her after 5 years and we shared what we've missed out in each other life. Eventually we were brought back to the topic of love and relationship.
"Do you believe there's that someone out there for everyone" she asked after sharing her fruitless 7-year relationship.
"Yes... but we might not end up with him/her eventually."
I believe most relationships run on 2 types of fuel– emotional and life factors. The former is simply how much you love this person based on who he/she is, looks, personality and other factors like family background, religion or beliefs. While the latter are factors such as life stages, financial responsibilities, career and what you are looking for in a relationship etc.
And most unions with longevity have a good balance of both fuels.
I shared a column I read on Zaobao with her. The Taiwanese columnist previously wrote about the biggest blessing one can receive is love from the person he/she loves too. But in this new column, he would like to correct himself on this "theory". He now believes the biggest blessing is when two people find love and they are able to give what each other is looking for. The act of loving each other might not be able to help you survive a relationship. If one is looking for a marriage and the other isn't, love will eventually have to give in to these functional needs.
My friend said she has lost faith in men and it will take a lot more for her to trust one. I hope she remains hopeful because we all deserve to be with the person we love and truly love us for who we are.
You are a beautiful and confident woman. And no one will be left out. :)