There are 2 occasions where a photo collage of someone would be used : a wedding or a wake. The subject, however, will only get to see the one used at his/her wedding.
The recent departure of a friend/colleague was an unexpected one. A car accident took his life on the first of May and left his family and friends devastated. This reminded me how vulnerable and short life can be. I guess with all the unpredictabilities and possible adversities in life, we have to cherish the people we love and things we have. If today is your last day on earth, what will be your biggest regret?
I believe most of us have tried answering this question. Me too. And I believe we should try to eliminate any possible regrets. Enough said.
What touches me the most at my colleague's wake were the eulogies read. These may be the last words the family and friends have for the deceased. And the greatest pity is the deceased will not get to hear it.
I met up with some friends for a light dinner after the wake and the first thing I told them is that I would want to have a eulogy reading session during my wake. I've hardly see anyone reading eulogy during a Buddhist-style wake and I would think having such a sharing session is important for the others to remember the gone.
If you think its a morbid idea, it is really not.
I hope there will be a social website in the future for us to write eulogy for the living. The idea is to write something for this person as though he/she is not with us anymore. It differs from the speeches read at weddings where we share how good a husband/wife your friend will make. This social site will keep all the eulogies your family and friends wrote for you. This will constantly remind you of your positive points and live by the virtues.